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Wow. The male privilege and mentitlement really comes through in every picture.

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Feb 4, 2023·edited Feb 4, 2023Liked by Ester Perez

Looks like you accidentally repeated the picture of Rhys instead of the intended picture of Will ...

Here is an official University of Pennsylvania Athletics page on Will, the dude that Penn later nominated as the NCAA "woman of the year", though mercifully that award ultimately did go to a woman, and not to Will, who isn't one:

https://pennathletics.com/sports/mens-swimming-and-diving/roster/will-thomas/14590

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thank you!! I don't know how I missed this, but I believe I fixed it now.

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Jan 27, 2023Liked by Ester Perez

Nailed it.

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There’s the visible disparity (which, of course, is stark) but what I get stuck on is the hidden differences. All of those people in the pageant picture except Brian went through the experience of having a first period; all of them likely had a female relative warn them about certain overly aggressive guys, or talk to them about being careful to not walk home alone or take the subway by themselves late at night.

Brian grew up in boys locker rooms and knows which urinal to pick when there’s a crowd (you never go stand directly next to another guy if you can avoid it), and understands the somewhat unfair expectations being a son, a brother, or maybe even a husband can impose.

It’s so hard to quantify but I’m fascinated by this - you have people telling us that, just because of surface level appearances and near metaphysical claims that Brian and those other entrants should be considered part of the same cohort. But under the surface their life histories and their relationships and subjective personal experiences could not be more different.

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